Should I Stay or
Should I Go?
Virtual Coaching for Women Nationwide
Are you struggling with the decision to Stay or Go in your marriage? Through secure virtual sessions, I help women across the United States navigate this difficult decision with confidence and clarity from the comfort of their own homes.
From our very first session, Blakely has consistently seen me for who I truly am, without judgment or bias...Her ability to create a safe and nurturing environment allowed me to open up in a way I have never been able to.
Mary J.
Coaching Client
About Me
My name is Blakely Patterson and I am a relationship coach who helps women who are struggling in their marriages decide if their relationship can be saved or if they need to move forward with divorce. I now provide all coaching services virtually, allowing me to support women across the United States.
For more than 15 years I practiced as a Marriage and Family Therapist helping couples navigate the complexities of their relationships. Over the years, I noticed several patterns…the most important being that many couples--even after multiple therapists and/or years of therapy--were still struggling to decide: Can we rebuild this? or Is it time to let go?
This realization inspired me to create a new practice with a different kind of support. Now, as a Life Coach, I empower individuals to confront this critical question head-on. Through a blend of practical tools and compassionate guidance, I will help you evaluate your own priorities, assess your current path, and establish a realistic plan to move forward, either with your partner or without.
My Specialties
I provide compassionate, expert guidance to help you navigate life's most challenging relationship decisions
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Making the Decision
I understand that deciding whether to stay and rebuild your marriage or move on can be one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever face. My approach is rooted in compassion, respect, and a deep commitment to your personal growth and well-being.
Rebuilding My Marriage
Rebuilding Together
If you're considering giving your marriage another chance, I can help you learn strategies to restore trust, deepen the connection with your partner, develop effective communication skills to express your needs, and discover ways to foster a more fulfilling relationship.
Empowering Your Independence
Moving Forward
Should you decide that moving on is the best choice for you, I am here to guide you through that transition. I will help you navigate difficult conversations with your loved ones and guide you through decisions about outside support and resources.
Navigating an Affair
Complex Emotions
My years of experience working with couples tell me it is far more common than you probably know, and it is incredibly difficult to talk about with friends or family. I want to create an environment free from guilt, shame, and judgment.
You Don't Have to Navigate This Alone
Making life-changing decisions about your relationship can feel overwhelming and isolating. My compassionate, non-judgmental approach provides you with the clarity and confidence you need to move forward with certainty.
Coaching vs. Therapy
How is it different?
Therapy
Past & Present Focused
Therapy focuses on mental health and emotional healing. It enables clients to develop a greater understanding of how their past experiences and thought patterns influence their behaviors and emotions. Often the goal in Marriage Counseling is to build communication skills, learn to resolve conflict, and understand and change behaviors, thoughts and emotions that negatively impact relationships.
Life Coaching
Present & Future Focused
Life coaching is present and future-oriented and focuses on setting and achieving personal goals. The relationship between you and your coach is more of a collaborative partnership that will help you identify your values, overcome obstacles, and set actionable goals to create a life you love.
Both coaching and therapy can be incredibly beneficial. It is important to understand the differences so that you can make an informed decision about your choice of professional support and the best path forward for you.
I also maintain a separate, traditional therapy practice for Tennessee residents requiring in-person couples counseling. That practice operates under different licensing requirements and is not related to my nationwide virtual coaching services. More information available at www.blakelypatterson.com
Your Journey to Clarity Starts Here
Whether you're leaning toward rebuilding your marriage or moving toward independence, I'll walk alongside you every step of the way. Together, we'll create a clear path forward that honors your values and supports your well-being.
What My Clients Say
Real stories from women who found their path forward
"Blakely has been an incredible support to me. When I found her I was sure that I wanted a divorce. After working together for a short time, I was able to recognize that I had not yet done enough to make that decision. She helped me sort it out and find the strength to try again with a healthier approach."
- Brittany F.
"When I called Blakely I knew my marriage was over, I just didn't know how to leave. I didn't know how to protect myself or my children. I needed a path, and she was able to provide it. Because of her support, I was able to manage all of the feelings without exhausting my friends and family!"
- Allison H.
"From our very first session, Blakely has consistently seen me for who I truly am, without judgment or bias. She met me where I was that day and has since walked me through some of the hardest moments of my life. Her ability to create a safe and nurturing environment allowed me to open up in a way I have never been able to."
- Mary J.
"Blakely's empathetic nature and extensive knowledge have equipped her to help others navigate their own journey. She has a unique ability to listen intently, remember the details, and provide guidance that resonates on a personal level."
- Jackie C.
"Blakely is genuine and open and will pick up and walk with you no matter where you are. I have made some bad relationship decisions, but I knew I could tell her anything. She welcomed me without judgment and helped me move from confusion and shame to a place of confident peace."
- Terri M.
Ready to Start Your Journey?
Take the first step towards clarity and confidence in your relationship decisions
Phone
(615) 631-4279
blakelypattersoncoaching@gmail.com
Free Consultation Available
I offer a complimentary 30-minute virtual consultation to discuss your situation and see if coaching is right for you. Virtual sessions offer the same level of personal attention and professional guidance as in-person meetings, with the added benefit of participating from your own comfortable, private space.
✓ No obligation
✓ Completely confidential
✓ Personalized guidance